Finding Happiness and Satisfaction
For most of my life, I've been an introverted, self-conscious mess of a person. Now that I'm in college, I'm an introverted, self-conscious mess, but I've increased my self-confidence and self-esteem, and I have several good friends that I work with, eat with, go out with, and suffer with in nursing school. However, having never been in a committed relationship, I feel as though there is a void in my life that should be filled happiness, hard work, and dedication. There have been (relatively speaking) dark times where I've thought I would never fall in love, I would never have someone to go home to, and I would be single to my dying breath. Silly, right? At the end of such spells, I resign myself to let things happen as they may while taking opportunities to try new things and experience life as I see fit. To find happiness and satisfaction in my life, I need something to change the way I think about myself, my circumstances, and my life ahead: I'm turning to Dr. David Burns' Feeling Good cognitive-behavioral therapy book for this. Wish me luck!
Let me tell you 1 thing. You are me in my past life and let me tell you another thing. You will not die alone and you will find true love the first love you will experience is to love yourself. Get out of your head, it's a dangerous place. You must unlearn all the negative things you think of yourself and learn to say I LOVE YOU every day you wake up and every night you go to bed. Do not overwhelm yourself with thinking about what the future holds. Think of the right now, right here, right at this moment. What am I doing right now, what do I need right now, and how do I get it right now. Find the emotion don't overlook the feeling that you are having, try to ask search within yourself. I love CBT it really works, coupled with meditation, exercise, sleep, and healthy eating you will learn how to categorize your thoughts and prioritize what you can do versus what you can't do. Also read 7 habits of highly effective people, this will give you some insight into changing your thought paradigm. I also read the Bible every chance I get to center myself and kill the negative thought. You are WORTHY of everything you want and you desire, do not be so critical of yourself, you are allowed to make mistakes. You will kiss frogs and 1 day 1 of them will be your Prince or Princess but right now in the midst of all the things you have going on is that really what you want or is that an end goal of what you will need later because right now the books are calling. Don't overlook your purpose, stay focused and ignore the distractions. You have a long life ahead of you, stop and smell the roses, don't overcomplicate things. Take it easy. 1 day at a time and remember that you are loved!